“Boys Being Boys”
If there’s one phrase that many women can’t help but roll their eyes at or even recoil at hearing, it’s the phrase, “Boys will be boys.”
This phrase has been used time and time again to excuse inappropriate behavior from boys and men directed towards women and girls. This OP heard it really young when she was picked on by her brothers. Yet, if she did the same thing, it was a punishable offense.
An Unfair Perspective
You can really tell, especially when you look back on growing up, that some were considered “for boys” and some were considered “for girls.”
For instance, like this woman, you might have shown an interest in dance or music and seen it treated differently than your brother’s interest in sports. She never forgot that her brother never had to go to her recitals but she had to go to every one of his games.
Is It Really?
If you want to get a tattoo before you’re 18 years old, you have to get parental permission. A shop isn’t going to let you get a tattoo underage.
When this OP’s brother was 16 years old, he wanted a tattoo. It took almost no convincing until Dad approved. Later, he didn’t do the same for his daughter. Why? Well, he was pretty upfront about why he treated them differently.
Aside from physically limiting themselves when it comes to food, women also have to deal with unwelcome comments.
This woman watched their brothers eat everything in the house and that was never a problem because, after all, they were growing boys. On the other hand, if you’re 6’2″, you’d need just as much food to nourish you right? Not according to this OP’s parents.
A Dangerous Precedent
As we’ve seen, parents sometimes go to great lengths to control their children’s diets. This was another home in which that was entirely contingent on gender.
This person remembered watching her brothers eat bigger portions and even have snacks that she’d never been told were in the house. Putting a child on a diet for no reason other than their gender is already bad enough but lying about and hiding food from them? That only adds to the situation here.
You Cannot Be Serious
When you move into a new apartment, you have to make sure that you have everything you need to live. This can be a really costly part of getting a new apartment.
If you watched your brother get his whole apartment stocked with IKEA furniture from your parents, you’d probably expect them to perhaps do the same for you. Instead, this OP’s parents questioned why she’d even need the table.
Different Rules, Different Outcomes
First off, we’ll say that we can see why parents would worry about teen relationships and the consequences their children could fall headlong into.
That’s not really the problem here, though, is it? It was the fact that the rules were applied differently to this woman and her two brothers. As you might expect, the same consequences they feared for their daughter ended up being a part of their sons’ lives.
There are a lot of outdated thoughts about women that we have to wonder exactly where they came from. This is one you may have heard before.
Despite what you might have been told growing up, girls do sweat and they’re allowed to. In fact, doing something physical is a good thing! This mom made a decision based on antiquated “rules” that we don’t really aim to play by anymore.
Awful in More Ways Than One
Sometimes, so much unfair treatment goes on in your childhood that it’s hard to really pinpoint one moment that really stood out.
Unfortunately, it seems like this woman dealt with more than just misogyny from her parents. Parents should never make their children feel like they’re too hard to raise. It’s even harder when you’re singled out like this from your brothers. We can only imagine what this must have felt like.
What Yard Work?
Women are often unfairly expected to do more housework than men. All you have to do is look at an ad from the ’50s to notice the trend and it’s not like that’s totally gone now.
This person couldn’t help but notice how much more trouble they would get in than their brothers for a messy house. However, something else stuck out to them. The reason it was never their brothers’ fault didn’t quite ring true.
Changing the Curfew
Once you’re an adult, most of us don’t have to deal with curfews anymore. So, the curfew here is already a bit more than most people would expect when you’re 23.
This woman can’t help but feel that it’s even more unfair that her brothers don’t experience nearly the same thing. While this 20-something-year-old woman has earlier curfews and limitations as to who she can and cannot hang out with, her teenage brother is allowed to drive cross country.
A Bit Blatant
Some differences you see between yourself and your brothers growing up, for many women are subtle. Sadly, not-so-subtle differences rear their ugly heads from time to time as well.
As for this person, she was wondering why they were never allowed to take the front seat. Not to worry — this family was happy to explain the chauvinistic view behind their decision. In fact, they just outright said what they meant.
Internet dating does have its risks, so parents often have rules about what they allow their children to do. That doesn’t mean each child always gets the same treatment, though.
As far as internet dating goes, this woman did her due diligence. She made sure to at least speak on the phone with the guy before agreeing to meet him. On the other hand, probably thanks to a different set of fears for each, her brother didn’t have the same restrictions.
When it comes to dress codes, it’s often one of the easiest ways to find examples of misogyny. Many women have grown up with rules on how to dress, even in their own homes.
This daughter watched her brothers walk around comfortably in their boxers all the time. However, the one time that she ran across the house with a sports bra on, it was a problem. That’s the getup many women workout in — and, even further, these standards were applied unfairly.
There are plenty of valid reasons that your parents might not let you date with a big age gap when you’re a teen. It can really leave you in vulnerable situations.
So, this woman not being allowed to date someone two years her senior as a teen came from a valid fear. Yet, we have to wonder why they didn’t think of the relationship their son was having with a girl two years younger than him, even though the siblings were roughly the same age.
This person wanted to kick things off by making one thing clear — she loves her brother even though there were plenty of times she saw a difference in how they were each treated by their parents.
Still, it was hard not to think about the comparison from time to time. It seems like their father was willing to buy his son anything he wanted. When it came to his daughter, he was never quite as giving with his daughter, leaving her to scrape things together herself.
Clearly, There Are Different Rules
No matter what MTV told us, the practice of getting a new car for your 16th is often reserved for wealthier families. That’s what it seemed like here for a minute.
When both of this family’s daughters needed cars, they were told to fend for themselves. They only got them when they worked hard and scraped together the money themselves. That’s not exactly what the sisters saw happen when their brother was in the same position.
Raising Your Voice
There are some things that you get in trouble for a lot as a teen. A lot of people remember being berated for their “teenage attitude.” This woman couldn’t help but notice a bit of difference between what was considered “attitude,” though.
If her brother snapped, swore, or yelled, it seemed like there was no consequence. On the other hand, if her tone was even a little annoyed, there were consequences that her brother never faced.
There are plenty of families that include grandparents in a very active part of their grandchildren’s childhood. In this family, that meant that their grandparents stepped in to provide field trips, as one example.
There was something about what they expected for that help that stood out to this person. When her brothers needed something, it was no questions asked. If the OP needed something, there was housework in store for them to “work it off,” so to speak.
Just Outright Saying It
There’s an antiquated idea that cooking is something that a woman does in the family. The truth is, the oven doesn’t ask you what your gender is.
Still, that didn’t stop this father from pressing his daughter to learn to cook more than his son. This wasn’t something that he was passing down without thinking about either. He made it clear that he thought about her and her brother differently.
A Horrible Story
There are some things that are never okay. This was a gross overreaction that was completely the brother’s fault, let’s be perfectly clear.
An apology wasn’t going to cut it here and this young woman wasn’t going to just accept an apology and move on. After all, she was shaken, as anyone in this position would be. Her mother’s response to this was absolutely awful; she shouldn’t be punished for her reaction to an attack.
The way that romance is viewed by comparing men and women can come with a lot of variation. We’ve already heard examples of different standards between brothers and sisters.
The one that this woman noticed the most clearly was her father’s reaction to intimacy when he saw each of them. In most people’s eyes, the encounter with the brother would be incredibly awkward. Plus, not speaking to your own child for a week is a pretty harsh punishment.
It seems like housework is a frequent area where daughters notice majorly different expectations for them and for their brothers. The same was true in this woman’s story. As a matter of fact, it would be nearly impossible not to notice the difference here.
If you’ve ever been put in a position where you take on the majority or all of the housework, you know how draining it can be. It’s also really disheartening to be so involved in cleaning the house when others aren’t very helpful.
A Different Curriculum
Over the summer, kids get a break from school. However, many parents enroll them in activities or provide their own during the break to keep their minds active.
When parents build the curriculum, though, they can choose to do it in any subject they like. This isn’t technically school-related, after all. So, the boys were assigned math while the girls’ summer education was more focused on perfecting their cursive and choir songs.
Do I Look Like Your Waitress?
There are some men who just expect women to wait on them hand and foot. When those men have daughters, that treatment can be painfully noticeable.
It would have been faster and easier for everyone to walk a few feet to the fridge and grab what they needed themselves. The fact that they then decided to interrupt her and make her come downstairs just to hand them something baffles us. If anyone’s confused, we promise, the fridge door will open for both men and women.
If there’s one thing that any woman or anyone who’s ever even presented femininely can tell you, people can get really nasty about your looks.
Critiquing a child’s weight and looks is already something that makes most parents’ skin crawl. The idea that these parents would bully her into a certain aesthetic and leave her brother alone really highlights the difference in how they were treated and judged by gender alone.
Buying a New Fridge
There are often many examples in a woman’s life of treatment like this. This woman had a particular story that she wanted to share that would sum everything up quite well.
When she needed a fridge, she covered all her bases when it came to making sure she got exactly what she needed. Still, that didn’t convince her father right away. With a little prompting, though, maybe she finally got through to him.
The Value of Dependence
This one is about the opposite of making a daughter do all the housework. However, that doesn’t mean it’s a great story either. This OP wasn’t just not assigned housework, she wasn’t allowed to do it.
In general, she got the sense that her mother didn’t want her to be as independent as her brother. Whether it was overprotectiveness or something else, this sort of behavior doesn’t promote independence.
There are some people who fall into certain roles naturally during family gatherings. For instance, if you have a baker in your family, they might take over dessert.
Then, there are some decisions that are just made by asking someone of a certain gender to do what people have traditionally assigned to them. This woman didn’t see how it was fair that she had to help while their brothers and cousins got to hang out.
“Not for Girls”
There are some instances when it feels easier to think of ways that you were treated equally with your brothers rather than think of how you were treated differently. This person could think of a long list of ways they were treated differently from their brothers.
Not only was she kept from “boys’ activities” but she was also pushed to focus on her looks — using makeup and dieting. And we’ve already touched on some of the dangers of dieting so young.
Not Knowing What to Do
When it came to traditions to keep, it seems like this mom was keeping a few antiquated ones when it came to daughters and sons.
If you had to help cook and clean but your brothers didn’t have the same chores — or any chores, for that manner — you’d probably get really frustrated. Later on, it was even easier to tell that her father preferred to spend time with her brother, which must have been heartbreaking.
Turning Down Help
It’s not just the things that women and girls are expected to do that can stand out to them. Sometimes, it’s easy to see that you’re treated differently for what you aren’t allowed to do.
This woman was trying to be helpful when she was younger and offered to help her father with mowing the lawn. If you’ve cut the lawn on a summer day, you know it can be difficult. Still, she wasn’t allowed to help at all, just for being a girl.
Even Wall Colors
There’s a lot of talk about “boy’s colors” and “girl’s colors.” You’ve probably seen a party or two themed in either blue or pink. Those are the sorts of colors you reserve for the baby shower, right?
As it turned out, this woman was stopped from choosing her own paint color when she was younger because navy blue was apparently not as feminine as sky blue. Clearly, she didn’t end up liking this color more because of these actions.
A Terrifying Trend
We’ve talked a lot about how dietary restrictions have negative impressions on many young girls. That doesn’t mean that men don’t experience it, but there’s a clear chauvinism when it comes to how women’s bodies are critiqued.
As for this woman, her parents were quick to critique her diet, leaving her searching for that middle ground. It resulted in an eating disorder. Plus, watching her brother eat uncritiqued couldn’t have helped the situation at all.
When you think of the holidays with your family, do you think about all the family time and gift-giving? Or do you dread all the chores that come with it?
If you were a member of this family, you might identify more with the latter. This woman noticed that her brothers’ holiday responsibilities weren’t taxing or time-consuming. On the other hand, she was expected to give up her whole day and more for the holidays.
A Lot to Take In
The first part of this comment is already one that would blow most people’s minds. With children so close in age, why is he favored on birthdays like this?
Even further, and on a more general note, she said it was easy to see that between them, their mother preferred her brother. Still, we’re glad to see that this person is thriving now and experienced things her brother never did.
We’ve seen a lot of awful behavior at this point. Most of it has been a story of favoritism or old ideas worsening the relationship between women and their parents.
This woman’s story was more about their relationship with their brothers as well as her guardians. Over the years, she was responsible for her brother’s behavior. There was no moment to criticize them or even talk through something — she had to forgive and forget, no matter what.
Pros and Cons
There are a few things that you can probably say if you were to compare growing up with your siblings. This woman shared a couple of cons and a pro.
To start with the good news, she was given a lot more forgiveness than her brother was. On the other hand, she did have stricter rules when it came to milestones of independence. While it was unequal punishment, the standard wasn’t anarchical in either direction.
There’s a Mix
It’s important to point out in plain terms that gendered expectations can affect both young boys and girls. Again, this person had something to say on each of their sides.
As for her, she noticed that there was a different, more reserved persona expected from her. Yet, she wasn’t as harshly punished when she slipped up or did something she was supposed to as opposed to her brother.
Hold On a Second
As an older child, you’re often expected to be more responsible. This older sister couldn’t help but notice that it seemed like there was nothing her siblings could do to get in trouble.
There are a few things that you might think were just completely over the line and anyone has to get in trouble at home, right? What if they broke the law? Well, it turns out that even that didn’t warrant punishments like this person experienced.
Making it Known
Parents playing favorites is bound to hurt your children and even test their relationships with each other thanks to the different treatment.
This woman was already taking on a lot of household tasks at a young age from cooking to childcare. To make matters worse, she says that she and her younger brother were painfully aware of who their mom favored more. This sounds like it would be terribly stressful.
No Hockey for Girls
While sports are often split into teams for boys and teams for girls, that doesn’t mean that the sport is something only one gender is capable of. It was only this person’s parents that stopped her from playing hockey, unlike her brothers.
To add to that, she was also expected to spend more time on housework and cooking. Even now, she can see her family’s disapproval of her relationship just because she and her partner are on equal footing.
Completely Different Lives
There’s a point where it’s hard to think of what it would be like if your brother was actually forced to help out the way that you were.
That was only multiplied when this gal looked at the expectations of her and her sister versus their brother. It wasn’t just that they had to take on the majority of the housework but they were expected to financially contribute at a young age.
Do You Hear Yourself?
There are some things that parents do when they favor one of their children over the other that really speak volumes to the child who didn’t get the same help. In this woman’s case, it was the difference in support during college.
Getting half of what your sibling gets to support themselves could possibly be explained if they were in a worse financial situation but these parents really turned a blind eye while their daughter was struggling. How do you not hear how absurd your reasoning is?
The world’s wealthiest have people to take care of everything, and that includes their shopping. Whether it’s clothing, luxury goods, once in a lifetime (for most people) experiences, or bespoke holiday gifts, the top 1% always have someone to rely on. As you would expect, personal shoppers face all sorts of ridiculous requests, odd requirements, and last-minute fashion emergencies. Delve into the mysterious world of the wealthy and take a look at these stories from high-level personal shoppers.
Get the Whole Family Together
Some companies — especially those that make coveted goods — have limits on how much individuals can buy. This is an attempt to be fair, so that everyone has a chance to get the newest iPhone. However, the super-rich have ways around such pesky rules, and won’t let anything stop them from getting what they want.
For this personal stylist, that meant enlisting several of her family members in order to get six iPhones for a client. Who cares if one person has to sleep outside the store overnight?
Everyone Has the Red!
When you’re seen out and about in the latest designer swag, you don’t want to be snapped in the same look as someone else. Obviously, that’s a major faux pas. But don’t worry, because the personal shoppers have got it covered. Before you even step foot in your favorite designer boutique, your personal shopper has sourced garments in colors that no one else has.
This personal shopper checks what the Beverly Hills department stores are stocking, and then sources other color options. Genius!
Racking Up the Air Miles
When it comes to luxury fashion, people aren’t exactly concerned with the environment. Whether it’s air miles, python skins, or chinchilla stoles, top fashion houses and their clientele aren’t really interested in the environmental cost of their tastes.
Just take a look at this story, where a personal shopper admits to planning their client’s holiday gift list, and then flying to Paris on a private jet just to refine the shopping list. What makes this even crazier is that the shopper needed to be in L.A.
Enjoying Unbuyable Perks
You’ll be pleased to know that working for rich people isn’t all hard work and no thanks. If you’re lucky, one of your super-wealthy clients might take a shine to you, and treat you with gifts, connections, or advice. That’s worth all the nonsense, isn’t it?
In this heartwarming post, a personal shopper reveals that one of her wealthy clients made himself available to her sick father while he was facing cancer. The top oncologist attended all consultations and paid for medicine.
Money Is of No Concern
When you have more money than most people can dream of making in a lifetime, you spend it with reckless abandon. Think about it — you could spend thousands every day and still never run out, so why not squeeze in some retail therapy once in a while?
This personal shopping tidbit comes from Michelle Liberman, the head stylist at The Shopping Friend. When Liberman’s client found out her rich husband was cheating on her, she grabbed the credit card and treated herself with no budget.
Just Keep Shopping
This next piece of personal shopping gossip comes from Alarna Hope, a Sydney-based personal shopper. Hope claims that many of her wealthy clients never get a chance to wear most of their designer clothes, and many of their items still have their tags on.
In fact, this personal shopper says that she has cleared out closets with enough new clothing to make a down payment on a house. Apparently, the client described here loved glamorous outfits but never had time to go out.
It’s Not About the Facts
If you’re super rich, you live in a world of yes. That is, you surround yourself with paid employees who constantly reassure you and reaffirm your decisions. You have VIP status, so people treat you well no matter how poorly you treat them. Your every move through life is planned and prepared by others so that you experience it as smoothly as possible.
So why, in those circumstances, would you ever accept you were any size other than what you’ve decided in your own head?
Stick to Fashion
This hilarious story comes from Valerie Halfon, who runs an NYC-based personal shopping service named Shop With Val. On this occasion, Halfon agreed to track down some fresh Formaggio cheese, but quickly realized she had bitten off more than she could chew.
After waiting weeks, ruining an outfit with cheese oil, and shelling out hundreds of dollars for dry ice, she decided to stick with fashion from now on. She jokes, “I’ll never look at mozzarella balls the same way again.”
Green Crocodile Simply Won’t Do
Amusingly, the elite’s personal shoppers must “cultivate a network of dealers” in order to keep their clients’ closets full of the most recent Yeezy sneaker or Hermès Birkin purse. While we’re zooming in on Kim K’s newest pair of Yeezies on Instagram, personal shoppers are running across the country trying to negotiate with auction houses and luxury fashion outlets.
Without all of this, the world’s wealthiest would never get their paws on a diamond-encrusted purse made from the skin of a crocodile.
Keeping Up for the Kardashians
Speaking of Kanye and Kim K — obviously, the mega-rich couple has personal shoppers buy gifts for their kids. In this case, personal shopper Nicole Pollard made gift baskets for North and Saint West, each filled with thousands of dollars’ worth of luxury goods.
Usually, personal shoppers don’t reveal the jobs they do for celebs and the super-wealthy, but Pollard was able to share her work because Kim K posted the gift baskets on Instagram. Apparently, the gifts also included low-priced educational toys.
I’ll Send the Limo
Not all personal shopper stories are bad — some are surreal, too. This tale, from personal shopper Joan Kaufman, shows that wealthy clients do offer things to their employees, but mainly just so that they can continue getting what they want.
This client stayed in Bergdorf’s so long that she had to send her limousine to pick up her shopper’s son. Then, she stayed even longer so that all three of them got stuck inside the store. Somebody stop her!
One Person’s Earrings
You’ve heard of how one man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Well, what about one person’s earrings being another person’s car? That’s what goes on in personal shopping sessions, where elite clients drop hundreds of thousands of dollars on a relatively small amount of items.
This personal shopper watched her client spend $15,000 on a pair of antique earrings, and suddenly realized how far that money would go in the real world. It’s all about perspective, eh?
We Need Meet and Greets!
Contrary to popular belief, personal shoppers don’t just buy clothing, shoes, and jewelry for their clients. Rather, personal shoppers at concierge services are asked to complete all manner of requests, including arranging celebrity meet and greets for their clients. As you might expect with the super-rich, this isn’t always asked for in a timely fashion.
This personal shopper found themselves faced with an impossible situation — booking pop star Justin Bieber on New Year’s Eve. Sadly, even they couldn’t do it.
Jet Setting and Shopping
Within the world of personal shopping, there are various levels and niches based on what type of shopper or wealthy person you are. This personal shopper organizes shopping trips for their clients, taking them to big cities where they can shop until they drop.
According to this personal shopper, these types of shopping trips are more about the experience than the goods. Somehow, we think the clients are still pretty happy when they return dripping in diamonds.
No Waiting Around
When your job is constantly being on call to people who aren’t used to hearing the word “no,” you need to be on your phone 24/7. For this personal shopper, that means non-stop texting. With their phone always in their hand, this shopper can manage to get Chanel to open their store on New Year’s Day.
You might wonder why someone would need access to the Chanel store on New Year’s Day, but that would be beside the point.
Entire Collections at Once
Usually, stores that sell high-end designer goods stock several items out of a collection. The person in charge of ordering chooses some colors and styles, and a selection will be available on the shop floor. Obviously, for VIP customers, this simply won’t do.
Personal shoppers work with department stores to make sure that their clients have access to entire collections. In the end, the client might only buy a few pieces, but it’s all worth it to keep them happy.
Take Whatever You Want
This personal shopper describes this part of her job as “legal shoplifting” because she can stroll into a top-end store and walk out with thousands of dollars’ worth of goods, without paying a cent. In this case, she was able to grab 40 bottles of Tom Ford perfume for royal clients and just skip out the front door.
While the rest of us save up our coins to buy luxury perfume for a special occasion, the world’s richest are drowning themselves in it.
Don’t Forget the Toddlers
So far, we’ve alluded to wealthy children by mentioning the gift baskets made for North and Saint West. But, we’ve got more! Wealthy people don’t just like to spend money on themselves — they also like to spend it on their kids and pets.
This tale comes from Sydney-based personal shopper Lauren Bart who worked at Threads Styling, the largest indie fashion concierge service in Europe. Bart purchased a $2,000 Chanel purse for a two-year-old child to keep her crayons in. Sigh.
Never Too Young to Shop
And while we’re talking about kids, why not mention the personal shoppers who pull items for unborn babies? That’s right — the super-wealthy get a curated closet for their little ones before they’ve even been born. How are there newborn babies dressed in clothes more expensive than what most adults own?
According to this personal shopper, this type of neonatal service comes totally free for longtime regular clients. What a wonderful world it must be.
Fully Frictionless Shopping
As we’ve mentioned, when you’re rich and powerful, you can move through the world with ease. You don’t have to find yourself a parking spot, somebody dry cleans your clothes, all of your meals arrive in front of you, and a posse of people take care of your needs before you’ve even met some of them.
Personal shoppers are part of this posse, making sure shopping trips are as smooth as possible. When clients arrive, the tailors are ready and waiting.
They’re Waiting for You
It goes without saying that wealthy clients make big bucks for their personal shoppers and stylists. Many personal shoppers make a commission based on what their clients buy, others are paid an hourly wage, and some earn both — such as personal shoppers within a department store.
This means that the network of personal shoppers is fully aware when someone wealthy is in town. After all, they want to make some money! According to this shopper, when a big spender is around, everyone’s ready for them.
A Nude Clutch, Stat!
Many clients of personal shoppers attend big events and expect to be snapped by the paparazzi. For this reason, their personal shoppers are on the sidelines to get them what they need at the last minute. In this case, that was a nude clutch for an attendee of the Grammy’s.
We’ve seen that big stores are willing to lend (or give?) items to wealthy clients at a moment’s notice. That’s what happened here when Saks stepped up. It truly takes a village.
Custom Made Only, Thanks
Some wealthy clients only accept the best, and that means they literally won’t wear clothing that other people can also purchase and wear. This rules out all clothing in most stores, leaving them with made-to-measure, bespoke, or haute couture clothing.
The client described here would only wear items specifically made for her. In these situations, some clients bring ideas or even drawings to the designer, and they work together on creating something bespoke. That way, you won’t risk seeing anyone else in your outfit.
Dogs Need Diamonds Too
We’ve had toddlers with Chanel purses and unborn babies with curated closets — it was only a matter of time until we got to the dogs. This personal shopper doesn’t just shop for gifts for humans, she also makes sure dogs get what they want on Christmas morning.
This shopper bought dog sweaters from designer online store Modus Operandi, as well as made-to-order diamond-encrusted collars. We really want to know what constitutes a “bespoke stocking stuffer” for a dog. A caviar stuffed bone?
Scouring the Globe
In this image, we have Japanese artist Yayoi Kusama alongside a blown-up version of her pumpkin clutch, made in collaboration with high fashion house Louis Vuitton. To the untrained eye, this scene might look rather confusing, but to a fashionista, this is something to behold.
That’s why this personal shopper was tasked with tracking down one of these purses. The only problem? There were only seven in the entire world. Of course, with the determination of a personal shopper, they nabbed one.
Chanel Couture Is Calling
Here’s another personal shopper who hopped on a plane with a client to check out the fashions in Paris. By their own admission, this shopper’s client had no intention of ever wearing their new sneakers on a treadmill, but that didn’t stop them from shelling out thousands of dollars for two custom pairs. Why bother with just one, right?
This shopper also mentions the Hermès Birkin, which is one of the most coveted designer purses in the world. They can cost between $12,000 and $200,000.
Nowhere Is Too Far
As we’ve seen already, when it comes to personal shoppers, their clients, and highly coveted items, no destination is too far-flung. Naturally, Rolex watches are one of these highly desired items, especially rare watches that have to be tracked down.
In these situations, personal shopping is almost like hunting. Shoppers jet off across the globe, consult with experts, and come home with something extremely rare. Rather than displaying it on their wall, these hunters show off their prey on their wrists.
A Private Nibbling Area
When you’re having a personal shopping session to spruce up your wardrobe for the new season, you’ll need some snacks while you shop. Yes, other people may be able to get their clothing themselves and eat on a separate occasion, but since when did the world’s richest abide by everyone else’s rules?
According to this shopper, one client requested that each individual showroom they visit have a nibbling area with tabbouleh, falafel, and coffee served at exactly 165°. Is that too much to ask for?!
Never Too Old for Toys
Lest you think the personal shopping world is all about catering to wealthy women, we point you in the direction of this gift — a $10,000 S.T. Dupont James Bond Kit. The French luxury manufacturer sold this set, including a fountain pen, cuff links, and a 7CC wallet, and we’re sure plenty of wealthy men snapped them up.
When it comes to personal shopping for men, clients are more likely to be looking for custom suits, collector’s watches, and expensive memorabilia.
Squeeze it All In
We’ve already learned that wealthy clients like to believe they’re several sizes smaller than they actually are. Come on, why puncture their bubble of reality when there’s no need to? Everyone else can just go along with whatever they say — it’s easy!
The client described here squeezed herself into several pairs of super tight shapewear undergarments, Spanx, just so she could squeeze herself into a dress two sizes too small. We hope that she could still breathe with all of that confined elastic.
Getting Your Priorities in Order
With this personal shopping story, we have yet another comparison between the price of luxury goods, and large purchases most ordinary people have to save up for. In earlier posts, it was a new car or a mortgage payment, but when it comes to the world of Audemars Piguet or Patek Phillipe watches, we’re talking about the price of a house.
And not just a small house in an unknown location — a house in the suburbs of Los Angeles. That can’t be right…
A Dog’s Best Friend
It’s one thing to dress your dog in designer clothing, but quite another to decorate it with expensive jewelry. Seriously — dogs don’t know what diamonds are! And they can’t tell the difference between pet store tartan and Harris Tweed. They just want cuddles and a chew toy.
When it comes to doggie decoration, we know it’s not about the pups themselves; it’s about their owners. Wealthy people want wealthy-looking dogs, and that means a diamond and gold collar on a teacup dog.
Almost Like a Job
A word of warning before you read this post — it is likely to make you quite irritated. You see, in this post, a personal shopper explains the plight of the super-wealthy. They get so many gifts that they’re inundated with unwrapping and thank-you notes. Though, they obviously hire someone to deal with all of this anyway.
Incredibly, this personal shopper tries to say that receiving and cataloging free stuff is “work” and a “problem.” Feel free to send some of it our way!
Piles of Puppies Please
For a certain portion of wealthy women, carrying around a small dog is as important to their image as the Fendi shoes they’re wearing. That’s right — Poodles, Chihuahuas, and Pomeranians indicate that a lady is wealthy and carefree, though obviously she doesn’t train the creature or clear up after it. That job is for the help!
This personal shopper reveals that one of her clients wanted to rent dogs just to go shopping. What can we say? We hope she didn’t get her way.
It’s a Dog’s Life
The world’s most pampered pooches don’t just get diamond and gold encrusted collars — they also jet off on private airplanes. That’s right. While you and your family are standing in the economy line and trudging through security, someone’s Labrador is kicking back and enjoying the view from its own jet. Wild, right?
This shopper, who works for a luxury concierge service, sent a client’s dog on a private plane so it could surprise its owner at a wedding. Wow.
Did You See the Price?
In a recent episode of The Real Housewives of Salt Lake City, one housewife invites the others for a Met Gala themed luncheon. The ladies show up dripping in jewels and draped with fur, and find elaborate gifts at each of their place settings. One of the gifts is a pair of Louis Vuitton earbuds, worth around $1,000.
Just like the client described in this post, this housewife wasn’t interested in whether anyone liked her gifts — just that they knew a lot of money had been spent.
Achieving the Impossible
When rapper Kanye West first released his Yeezy Boost sneakers, the fashion world went wild. At first, people not in the know scoffed at the shoe, and at the idea of yet another celebrity fashion designer. However, this was the inimitable Kanye West, and his designer wares soon became global fashion. Seriously, oversized sweatshirts and dad sneakers were all Kanye.
Anyway, Kanye’s Yeezy Boosts clearly sent personal shoppers wild and had them scrambling all over the world to nab a pair.
With Only a Muumuu
We aren’t sure what to make of this personal shopper story, where a shopper finds a sick client lying in a posh hotel, wearing a muumuu. For those who don’t know, a muumuu is a Hawaiian item of clothing that’s somewhere between a dress and a robe. This client had hopped on a plane wearing just this, and needed her personal shopper to buy absolutely everything.
This meant that the shopper had to buy full designer outfits, as well as undergarments, socks, pajamas, shoes, purses, and jewelry!
It’s All in the Name
Unsurprisingly, most people that buy designer clothes just want them because of the names emblazoned on their tags. Sure, they’ll tell you that they care about craftsmanship, or that they only want items made with high-quality fabrics and finishes. But, do you really think if you switched the labels on some slip dresses or T-shirts that these wealthy clients could tell the difference?
The client described here bought an unlined velvet dress — very unflattering — solely because of its designer credentials.
Swooning Over Crooners
Here’s another celebrity meet and greet, this time with Tony Bennett rather than Justin Bieber, and presumably not on New Year’s Eve. For a situation like this, a personal shopper would probably come up with the idea of seeing Bennett, introduce it to their client, and then organize the entire thing. Then, the client can sit back and enjoy all the praise.
We have to admit that we’d enjoy a romantic evening listening to the sweet sounds of Tony Bennett. Maybe next year.
Are Your Teeth Clean?
As we’ve said already, wealthy people are used to asking for what they want and getting it. This means that they have no sense of perspective, and don’t realize how rude or unreasonable some of their requests are. This story comes from Michelle Liberman, the head stylist at The Shopping Friend.
According to Liberman, one of her clients insisted that all stylists have good breath and etiquette training. Not even Liberman could keep up with this client’s requests, and she stopped working for her after just ten days.
Tis the Season
You might have heard that “it’s the thought that counts,” but for the world’s top 1%, it’s actually the cost that counts. We know that wealthy people don’t buy their own gifts, and especially not for employees. This personal shopper explains who does buy those gifts, and reveals that clients might allocate around $1,000 for gifts for their assistants.
However, when it comes to rare books signed by important historical figures, the gifting budget goes completely out the window.
Temporary Next of Kin
We’re interested in the dynamics between the client and personal shopper in this post, especially because of their joint trip to a plastic surgeon. Under what circumstances, we wonder, would a personal shopper recommend a client to a plastic surgeon? And why, we continue to wonder, would they then accompany them, twice?!
We get that rich people tend to be close with their staff, but it’s still a little disheartening that wealthy people don’t have someone unpaid to chaperone them to an appointment.
There for the Bad Times
Among all the naked greed and unending consumerism, there are some glimmers of hope in the world of personal shopping. This personal shopper describes a time when one of her elderly customers was involved in an accident, and ended up with two broken legs (don’t worry, that’s not the hopeful bit).
This shopper visited their client in the hospital and brought along some take-out from Barney’s signature restaurant, Fred’s. We’re sure this shopper was just maintaining their network, but we appreciate this gesture nonetheless.
The Tips Aren’t Bad
And finally, we close our list by revealing that personal shoppers enjoy some pretty lavish tips. It does make sense — these people go out of their way to make wealthy people happy. Why wouldn’t they reap some of the spoils?
This personal shopper claims that shoppers in high end department stores are gifted with couture clothing, theater tickets, and beautiful bouquets of flowers. While a $100 tip sounds pretty great, we’d take (and resell) a designer purse instead.